I don't' think you quite understand. There are things that you cannot enjoy the other person doing if it makes them uncomfortable. BDSM isn't like the candy-coated spanking shit perpetuated by 50 Shades. There is so much mental and emotional stuff that goes into it, on top of the physical aspects, and it isn't just tying up and spanking.
You can want to please each other all you want, and still fail to be able to give each other the kind of sex you like.
You can want to please each other all you want, and still fail to be able to give each other the kind of sex you like.
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