Life Is Short; Have an Affair

[CapnAwesome]

Here is the thing that I've found in my experience, if you want to sleep with other people it's best to talk to your partner about it. Maybe you can come to some sort of arrangement or maybe not. I never have seen the appeal of cheating myself. It seems like a lot of work and also super duper stressful. I also would say I have above average communication skills when it comes to talking about sex. I mean if you are somewhere in your 30s or under people are just so much more open minded then they used to be. I think this spoon fed idea of strict monogamy and how uncomfortable people are with talking about what they want is perhaps the root cause of cheating in the first place.

I wonder how many people here are incapable of letting their partner sleep with other people under any circumstances? Something like that, especially when people are safe about it, isn't cheating and maybe could satisfy that cheating desire that people get.

My take is a bit different.  If you don't want monogamy, don't ever agree to it.

But, I do agree that if one has made such an agreement and is going to violate the agreement, it would be better to inform the interested party in advance.  They can then decide if they wish to terminate the relationship or continue with a change to a different agreement.  Still, it is a shitty thing to agree to something and then not follow through.  So if one wants to sleep around, the solution is very simple:  Just never agree to monogamy in the first place.

Yeah, I actually agree with you. That's probably an even more mature choice, if you absolutely can't handle monogamy.