Life Is Short; Have an Affair

[thesummerqueen]

Catching up to all this, so apologize if I run across similar answers as I continue reading and responding.

I wonder how many people here are incapable of letting their partner sleep with other people under any circumstances? Something like that, especially when people are safe about it, isn't cheating and maybe could satisfy that cheating desire that people get.

I literally just had this conversation with a friend last night. We have several mutual friends who are in open marriages. This friend is not in an open marriage, but there have been times in this person's life where it would have made things easier. Not for cheap thrills, but because our friends and loved ones don't stop at hard lines as defined by people usually associated with the Family Values groups in America. I really think that the reason we're incapable of acting like you describe is due to jealousy and insecurity. It's something I've been trying to explore, root-out, or at least define and manage in myself, lately. Maybe we should all be better not just at communicating our wants, but also in communicating to our partners why we need them around as much as the other people we want intimacy with.

I'm not a hacker but I think hacking has done some really good things along with the obvious theft and stuff. When government websites get hacked to reveal that they are a bunch of shitheads who are doing immoral stuff, that's good. I think this is much the same. If it takes something illegal to reveal something immoral, I'm all for it.

"Perhaps on the rare occasion pursuing the right course demands an act of piracy, piracy itself can be the right course?" - It's rare when a Disney movie can be so relevant.

Just never agree to monogamy in the first place.

I think this is a bad position. I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago. Why should I expect that my values or needs or wants should remain the same, even if I do want to continue devoting most of my life to the same person? 10 years ago, I could have said yes to monogamy. Now, maybe I'm not so sure. You should always be able to discuss such things with your partners.