RE: What to say to Grandma?
September 2, 2015 at 2:16 pm
(This post was last modified: September 2, 2015 at 2:25 pm by MTL.)
NOTE: SOMETHING SUBTLE TO CONSIDER:
Your grandmother might be willing to back off and seemingly respect your beliefs.
But she may have backed off on the understanding that she can always
“pray for God to touch your soul” …without actually taking it upon herself to pester you.
That might be as good as you will ever get from her,
And it might be important for you to understand
that the only reason she is willing to do so is because:
She is able to reconcile herself with the idea of your beliefs, and her beliefs, simply being “different”
…because in her mind, that leaves a little “hope” that you might “eventually come around”.
AS LONG AS SHE DOESN’T PESTER YOU WITH IT,
…then if preserving the relationship is really important to you,
You may just want to let her think so!
But what I don't know is how profound your personal rejection of Religion, really is.
If you simply dislike it, that's fine.
However, if you are like me, you HATE religion and hold it responsible for much of the evil in the world.
IF YOU ARE OF THIS MINDSET,
but also want to preserve a relationship with your Grandmother,
and she is willing to respect your beliefs for the sake of preserving the relationship,too,
then the following is important to note:
If she were ever to discover that your beliefs, and her beliefs, are not merely “different”,
But are actually DIAMETRICALLY OPPOSED….that might be a different ball of wax, altogether.
If she learned that you consider religion to be evil,
If she learns that you think SHE is the misguided one,
That might be the deal-breaker.
She might find that idea so hopeless, so offensive, so outrageous,
That she may well consider you “past all hope” ….and offensive, to both her, and to God, to boot.
Your grandmother might be willing to back off and seemingly respect your beliefs.
But she may have backed off on the understanding that she can always
“pray for God to touch your soul” …without actually taking it upon herself to pester you.
That might be as good as you will ever get from her,
And it might be important for you to understand
that the only reason she is willing to do so is because:
She is able to reconcile herself with the idea of your beliefs, and her beliefs, simply being “different”
…because in her mind, that leaves a little “hope” that you might “eventually come around”.
AS LONG AS SHE DOESN’T PESTER YOU WITH IT,
…then if preserving the relationship is really important to you,
You may just want to let her think so!
But what I don't know is how profound your personal rejection of Religion, really is.
If you simply dislike it, that's fine.
However, if you are like me, you HATE religion and hold it responsible for much of the evil in the world.
IF YOU ARE OF THIS MINDSET,
but also want to preserve a relationship with your Grandmother,
and she is willing to respect your beliefs for the sake of preserving the relationship,too,
then the following is important to note:
If she were ever to discover that your beliefs, and her beliefs, are not merely “different”,
But are actually DIAMETRICALLY OPPOSED….that might be a different ball of wax, altogether.
If she learned that you consider religion to be evil,
If she learns that you think SHE is the misguided one,
That might be the deal-breaker.
She might find that idea so hopeless, so offensive, so outrageous,
That she may well consider you “past all hope” ….and offensive, to both her, and to God, to boot.
