"Sins"?

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Hello Sandra

I'm sorry to hear you were put through that. Sadly religion is very good at using guilt, and even thought police, to keep people in check.

Others here have been through the same thing so can probably offer a better perspective than me. I'd say that firstly "sin" is an imaginary notion, the idea that you can hurt god's feelings. A god having human feelings is absolutely absurd, and a dead giveaway that it's just a human imaginary construct. If there is a god, protecting his feelings is not of prime importance. I'm sure he can take care of himself.

My advice is to look at the actual consequences of your actions. Did what you do hurt anybody? If not, you have nothing to feel guilty about, on the whole. "Sin" is a word for pretending things are bad when actually they don't matter at all. For one, no one can help what thoughts go through their head. That's no one's business but your own, and it doesn't hurt anyone. It's actions that matter.

We all make mistakes, and when we do, we should apologise to the people we actually hurt and then try and learn from them.