How would you react to a gay person who found you TOTALLY repulsive ?

[Pyrrho]

I suppose wording makes a big difference too.

If I said you were attractive, your feelings might be more positive than if I said I wanted to ejaculate in your mouth.

And the flip side, if I said you weren't particularly attractive might go over better than me indicating I'd rather chop my arm off than stick it in your butt.

The thing is, I would rather you chop off your arm than stick it in my butt.  So we will be on the same page if you feel that way, too.

You are right that how one says something makes a difference, but, really, though, I question the need to tell someone that you find the person repulsive.  Why do that?  What purpose does it serve?  Sure, I can think of circumstances under which it would make some sense, but in most cases, it seems to be unnecessary rudeness.

As a general rule, I do not tell people who I find repulsive that I find them repulsive.  There is generally no need to do that.  The world has more than enough unpleasantness in it already, so why add more that serves no purpose?