How would you react to a gay person who found you TOTALLY repulsive ?

[MTL]

The practice of designating the term "pervert" to homosexuality, always kind of puzzled me.

If you want to deem something an "abomination" and an "offense to God"
based on your personal choice of Holy Writ,
that's one thing;

(As long, of course, as you don't use your religion,
in a free country,
to try to justify limiting the freedoms of those
who do not share your religious views)

...then you can believe that if you want.  No problem.

However,

It is a whole 'nother ball of wax, entirely,
for any human being to consider themselves "normal"
and designate someone else as "perverse",
unless the alleged pervert:

- wants to have sex with any human against their will, or utilize psychological abuse to manipulate another,
- wants to cause significant injury or death, or is pleasured by witnessing injury or death,
- wants to have sex with any human who hasn't reached maturity yet,
- or with any deceased human remains,
....or with anything that isn't human, at all.

Because human sexuality is an ocean of complexities....even if you're straight.

The simple machinations of what people do is not really the point.

Like they say,

90% of human sexuality is between the ears,
not between the legs.

And this applies just as much to straight people as to gay.

I'm a straight woman and really quite vanilla in the bedroom,
but it's taken me decades to really learn my own mind,
and the subtleties of the complex psychological aspect of my sexuality;

and to realize the importance of finding a man whose sexual psychology
dovetails with my own.

There are plenty of straight men who have a subtle pervy kink, here or there;
....and many of those straight men are homophobes....which to me is highly hypocritical.

There are GAY men who just like to have sex and be affectionate,
which to me, is quite vanilla,

but there are STRAIGHT men who only like to have sex with women
in fuzzy plush costumes whilst crushing empty soda cans underfoot,
stuffing luncheon meats in their armpits,
singing showtunes, and boiling radishes on the stove.

To me, the latter is far kinkier;

 yet, I can accept it, as long as everyone is a living, consenting, mature, human being,
and no one is being injured or killed.

So I can't but scoff at anyone who is so unsophisticated and emotionally adolescent
as to presume to designate a fellow human "perverse"
simply for the insignificant, negligible triviality of both partners being of the same gender...

...and, conversely, have the arrogance to present themselves as "normal".

So believe it is a sin, if you want,

but tread carefully before deigning to assign the term "perverse" to a fellow human.

In other words, Judge not lest ye be judged:

Let him who is without perversity cast the first point and giggle.