(October 9, 2015 at 7:51 pm)robvalue Wrote:(October 9, 2015 at 6:24 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: I've often wondered how heterosexual men work through the 'logic' of not being effeminate at all, but still desiring the female stuff for stimulation and sexy time.
Isn't it more masculine and 100% less feminine to get the nookie from masculine (willing) virile men than foofy frilly girly girls ??
I reckon my personality is closer to female than male, if that means anything at all. My wife also thinks I'm slightly camp, which I was a little surprised at, but not offended. I don't go out of my way to behave masculine or feminine, I'm just me. According to a program about closet gays, I met all the criteria for one (from a woman who said she "should have seen the signs"; I have all those signs).
I don't exactly know why I'm telling you all thisI've never been even close to bicurious though, but I wouldn't have minded one bit if I was. I may actually have preferred it, as I somehow feel I'm missing out! I wonder what it's like to be a woman, and what it's like to be gay/bi. So in that way I'm curious, but I don't have enough desire for it to amount to anything. I'm not however at all repulsed by the image of man/man sex like some people are, but neither do I find it stimulating. And even though sex to me isn't essential for being with someone, I don't think I could feel that way about a man like I could with a woman. I find that a little puzzling, but I guess it's normal.
There's thousands of different cases that could be cited;
Years ago, I used to wonder why so many lesbians were so butch, when they liked women;
you think they'd be more feminine???
Same with gay men; I wondered, if they're into what is masculine,
why are so many, so effeminate?
But then I got older and realized that there's a vast vast grey area and you can't generalize
