Unromantic Atheism?

[Exian]

Measure Your score
Relationship Avoidance: 57.5
Relationship Anxiety: 78.5
Attachment style:


Based upon your answers, it appears that your anxiety about losing relationships is greater than your tendency to avoid them defensively. This is not necessarily or even likely to be a problem. But if you are having difficulties, they are most likely to be in these areas:
Your partner may complain that you are too possessive or clingy
Relationships may feel frightening
Relationships may consume a large amount of emotional energy for both you and your partner. This amounts to time spent maintaining the relationship rather than growing the relationship
You may be overly preoccupied with your relationship
Any distress this behavior may cause you depends on how much you find yourself worrying about your attachment versus how much you try not to get overly involved. Keep in mind that some amount of anxiety about your relationship is healthy. For instance, it's probably good to be nervous if your partner stays out very late most nights.

There is also a self-balancing system involved in any relationship. The person who avoids the risks of intimacy, for instance, may be able to learn about the joys of intimacy from the anxious person who worries about losing the relationship. Similarly the anxious person may benefit from appreciating the avoidant person's naturally well-developed sense of autonomy.

Your romantic attachment style: Cool and Dismissive

You have suggested that you have a dismissing style toward attachments, that they are really not too important to you. It is likely that you get along in your relationships, but don't invest yourself very much in them. You are also likely not to experience a great deal of distress in life and you probably don't experience feelings that are extremely intense, compared to people around you. Compared to them, you probably are not as excitable and tend not to get worked up over things.

This is a perfectly fine way to be and it probably keeps you on a very even keel. However, someday you may find that you are starting to feel lonely and that you would like to have closer relationships. If this should happen, but you find that you are unable to achieve the closeness you want, you may want to engage the services of a professional psychotherapist. This is the kind of life change that a professional can really help with.

Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.

This is what I got. I didn't even read all of it. I got to the "too clingy" part and stopped reading. The thing I need is a shit ton of time to recharge my batteries. It's a lot of mental work caring about every little thing said to me.