I hadn't realized there was a little write up that comes along with the numbers. Here is mine.
Measure Your score
Relationship Avoidance: 65
Relationship Anxiety: 77
Attachment style: Secure and Happy
I'm secure and happy in my relationships
Based upon your answers, it appears that your anxiety about losing relationships is greater than your tendency to avoid them defensively. Given the degree of the difference, this is not likely to be a problem. But if you are having difficulties, they are most likely to be in these areas:
Your partner may occasionally complain that you are sometimes possessive or clingy
Relationships may sometimes feel frightening
You may find yourself thinking about the relationship more often than your partner
Keep in mind that some amount of anxiety about your relationship is healthy. For instance, it's probably good to be nervous if your partner stays out very late most nights.
There is also a self-balancing system involved in any relationship. The person who avoids the risks of intimacy, for instance, may be able to learn about the joys of intimacy from the anxious person who worries about losing the relationship. Similarly the anxious person may benefit from appreciating the avoidant person's naturally well-developed sense of autonomy.
Your romantic attachment style: Secure and Happy
You have described yourself as securely attached. This means that you are likely to have happier relationships and be better able to sustain commitments than people who have an insecure attachment style.
You are likely to have more positive emotional experiences and to be more happy and outgoing in interpersonal relationships. You will be more likely to express what you really feel. You are more likely to be able to depend on others when it is appropriate, and yet able to function autonomously in your own sphere when that is appropriate. You are also more likely to raise children who themselves will have a secure attachment style.
Measure Your score
Relationship Avoidance: 65
Relationship Anxiety: 77
Attachment style: Secure and Happy
I'm secure and happy in my relationships
Based upon your answers, it appears that your anxiety about losing relationships is greater than your tendency to avoid them defensively. Given the degree of the difference, this is not likely to be a problem. But if you are having difficulties, they are most likely to be in these areas:
Your partner may occasionally complain that you are sometimes possessive or clingy
Relationships may sometimes feel frightening
You may find yourself thinking about the relationship more often than your partner
Keep in mind that some amount of anxiety about your relationship is healthy. For instance, it's probably good to be nervous if your partner stays out very late most nights.
There is also a self-balancing system involved in any relationship. The person who avoids the risks of intimacy, for instance, may be able to learn about the joys of intimacy from the anxious person who worries about losing the relationship. Similarly the anxious person may benefit from appreciating the avoidant person's naturally well-developed sense of autonomy.
Your romantic attachment style: Secure and Happy
You have described yourself as securely attached. This means that you are likely to have happier relationships and be better able to sustain commitments than people who have an insecure attachment style.
You are likely to have more positive emotional experiences and to be more happy and outgoing in interpersonal relationships. You will be more likely to express what you really feel. You are more likely to be able to depend on others when it is appropriate, and yet able to function autonomously in your own sphere when that is appropriate. You are also more likely to raise children who themselves will have a secure attachment style.
