(December 7, 2015 at 1:10 pm)God of Mr. Hanky Wrote:(December 6, 2015 at 11:43 pm)Judi Lynn Wrote: I, along with many here, have had more than their share of the shit sandwich of life. I have had heartache like no one here knows. I am going through some issues with a seriously damaged person in my personal life. That said, it is quite one thing to show disdain for someone - especially someone who has made the news in a bad way - by saying you don't like them or their views, but to wish a person dead, to want to hear the crushing of their bones, that is a level of disturbance that is so epic, people need to view it as a red flag.
It is time for people (not directed at any one person in particular) to start paying very close attention to the mindset of others on here. When individuals have that much hatred for people they don't even know and they state the horrific things that we have heard all over the forums for the last few weeks, then caution needs to be taken. No, I'm not going overboard with this. Clearly there is some very disturbed thinking and someone should be paying closer attention and not providing excuses for the thought pattern of such a person. Normal people don't go around thinking vile, abhorrent thoughts about other people and wishing they were dead, simply because they aren't liked.
Not saying you went overboard, and I really don't want to be critical, it's only that this dialogue brought to my attention how understanding (not blind sympathy) is as useful a defense as caution (know your enemy). I'm no authority on this matter, but then I've watched society slide down to a dangerous level of non-understanding, and it's no more safe for it. People who would go on violent rampages against people who they don't even know personally should not be coddled, but the fact that more of them are acting out their violent fantasies today is a sign that too many are not being helped before it's too late. Perhaps it's that web communications are somehow helping to alienate them more quickly and effectively than help them (that's just a guess, but that's a factor concurrent with the recent generation)?
I'm very sorry your life has been so difficult, and believe this - I know first-hand about many of life's difficulties!
Thank you for your honesty here. I agree, society has gone to hell. 2015 is the year of being offended. Shootings, bombings and other acts of terrorism have reached an all-time high this year and it's sad. It is sad that a new generation of people are going to be witnessing a world of such profound hate and misery. Aside from all of that, quite a few people have not only suggested helpful things, but at the same time, have been dismissed for making those suggestions. Help only comes if one admits they need it.
Believe me, with all of the things I have been through in the last decade, I could just as easily hate everyone around me and wish horrible things on the world, but at the end of the day, none of that matters. What matters is that I love my kids and I am doing the best job possible to be the best mom possible. Tomorrow isn't promised and the past can't be changed. What makes a difference is how a person is living "in the now" or in the present. Being in a constant state of negativity drains a person of the good they could be doing, if not for themselves, but for others.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.