(December 11, 2015 at 11:56 am)drfuzzy Wrote: I attended a rather brilliant group therapy session on forgiveness that has never left me.
Forgiveness, in the Judeo-Christian western sense of the word, is a deliberate act. It can very easily devolve into a type of one-upmanship and moral superiority stance. The "forgiver" often is known to say that he's "taking the higher ground" and "being the better man" - - while the "forgiven" is judged as less than, and often removed from the circle of friends and family. The forgiver really hasn't forgiven anything, he has just chosen to walk away, feeling superior. This mindset heals no-one.
Who's version of forgiveness is this? Definitely not what I've been taught.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
