Loving and forgiving your enemies

[Catholic_Lady]

They don't have to be mutually exclusive at all. The more common thing is for it to be both. Forgive because it helps the healing process and because you feel it is the right thing to do.

No. The first thing - that's what happens. The latter - that's just what sanctimonious people say in order to appear more noble, and/or to cover the fact that they haven't dealt with the issue at all - they're just going through the motions, because they were indoctrinated since childhood into believing, that it's what they're supposed to do.

How can you tell, if a person truly is at peace with the injustice that happened to them, if all their life they were told, that you want to hear, that they are?

Forcing people to issue blanket forgiveness is like indiscriminately putting only a band-aid on every wound, regardless of its severity. Some people have scratches and a band-aid works well enough, although they could have gone without it altogether. Other  people have serious wounds and simply sticking a one-size-fits-all band-aid only makes them fester.

Do you always think that people who try to do something because it is the right thing to do are sanctimonious and phony, or only when it is a Christian principle?  

Also, you said you didn't know what the motives were of the woman in the video, even though she clearly said she believes forgiveness is the right thing to do. Yet here you make it pretty clear that you think people who do this are not being genuine. So, I'm confused. Which is it?