Women's clothes?

[Catholic_Lady]

Think about it this way. Do you ever see gothic people walking around in strange, black clothing, some crazy colored hair, black lipstick, scary face make up with tons of white foundation and thick black eye liner? (think Marilyn Manson type look a likes) It was much more popular in the 90's but still happens sometimes.   

Anyway... obviously, they stand out. 

But are they dressing like that specifically to get starred at by other people? I'm sure some of them do. But I'm sure there are others who just dress like that because that is how they express themselves and it makes them feel interesting and edgy. In other words, they look like that because they like that style. Not because they want to be some sort of object of entertainment for others to gawk at. 

It's the same concept with some women and sexy clothing. Sure, some dress like that to play head games and get starred at, but perhaps others dress like that because it's just their style and they like the way it makes them feel... no different from the goths in my above example. (and another point that was briefly brought up... maybe they are wearing short shorts and a tank top because it's hot out lol) 

The wrong thing is to automatically assume the former and feel as though you are entitled to behave rudely by staring... whether someone is dressed in goth, sexy clothes, or any other type of outfit that stands out.

It's completely different when talking about "dressing sexy" and "dressing different".

For the simple fact that the term "Sexy" comes from what is defined as attractive by others, even if choosing what you personally find to be attractive it's all relative to what society has deemed it so. No one's going out in all black with makeup and stuff, goth and saying they are "Sexy" simply because they like the outfit. It relies entirely on other people, whereas in your comparison, being "goth" doesn't.


Would it make it okay for people to go around naked because that's simply how they want to express themselves?

Do people go to nudist beaches to express themselves? No, they go there to stray away from what they know is true of society; if you were to go nude in public it would get reactions, and lots of attention, and by doing so knowing that factor you are then seeking attention. That's why they have to go to a specific place, where the norm. is being nude, in order to feel as though they are normal. Therefore if a girl wears skimpy clothes in public, she should know she will get attention that's possibly unwanted, and by doing so is seeking attention because that is not the social norm. If it's so big of a deal to give yourself confidence then just do it in your own house, it defeats the purpose of "public" to say it's nothing to do with others.

I don't see how expressing yourself with "sexy" clothing is different from expressing yourself with any other type of clothing. You're being a bit biased, perhaps because you personally don't like having to deal with the temptation of gawking. 

As for going around naked, if they are in a nudist community, I don't see a problem with it at all (otherwise it would be a crime). If you look into nudist communities, it's mostly about the hippie, liberating lifestyle than it is about sex and tempting each other.