My Grand Daughter

[madashell]

I don't know if this belongs here or in the religion thread but I just had to vent.

My Grand Daughter, who is a single mother, is trying to buy a house and asked me if I would co sign.  Of course I said I would help her in any way I can but the bank wouldn't accept a co signer and her last request was needing a larger down payment and I don't have to money to loan her.  I told her this and how sorry I was that I was unable to help and her response was "Oh no! I'm sorry papa! It's no big deal though! If I don't get this house then God has something better planned. Thank you! I love you"

This crap about God has something better planned pisses me off and I feel like telling her that she needs to depend upon herself and not some invisible creature in the sky but it would probably only alienate her.  She lives in Texas and I live in Arizona and we don't see each other all that much (like hardly ever).  It just pisses me off that this sweet young woman has become a pawn of the religious wrong and all I can do is grit my teeth and hope that someday she will learn to think for herself and not expect miracles that will never happen. 

So much for my rant.  Thanks for reading.

Does she know about your stance on the matter? If you really want to, try and talk to her about it in a non-confrontational way. I can't imagine you'll alienate her if you simply have a friendly conversation.

She knows that I don't believe in God and I'm sure she didn't even realize what she was saying it's just the language she is learning being in a strong religious area.  I just mourn the fact that she is getting her guidance from so called friends that believe in fairy tales.  I could let her know how I felt about those type remarks and she would understand but I think it's best if I ignore them.  She probably feels sorry that I don't believe and I feel bad that she does. 

I had hopes that this girl would learn to think for herself and not be a joiner but she is naïve and wants so badly to belong that she's an easy target for those that have been brain washed from birth to believe in the invisible man in the sky.

As I wrote earlier, my best course is to ignore the language as it really doesn't mean anything but every time I hear that phrase God has a plan for me, I cringe no matter who says it.