Transexuals

[Vincent]

Then I have 0 problem calling you a bigot.

Physical men (including the ones who identify as women) shouldn't use a women's bathroom/lockerroom because it makes a lot of women feel uncomfortable, and instead they should have the option of using a gender neutral bathroom so that no one feels uncomfortable. If that makes me a bigot in your eyes, then so be it. I already knew you didn't like me anyway.

Hey, C_L :}

Trust me, if gender neutral bathrooms were an option everywhere, that would make everything so much easier on trans people. Unfortunately though, that's not the case. 

Now let me paint you a picture. Let's say you pass by me at the mall, and you see me and automatically assume I'm a guy. I have an inch of hair. I wear thicker, male clothes that hide the curve-like figure I was cursed with at birth. I have on a binder that makes my chest appear as flat as any man's. I wear masculine sunglasses to conceal my soft cheekbones. 

Now, imagine you're in the bathroom, washing your hands. And I walk in. And your first thought is that I'm in the wrong bathroom, and you feel instantly uncomfortable. But ah, I have a vagina! So I have every right to be in there!

Thing is, C_L, what are the chances of you seeing my vagina? What are the chances of cis men seeing it in the men's room? Which restroom would be not only safer for me, but also easier for everyone? When's the last time you saw another person's genitals in the bathroom? All you tend to see is the gender they express themselves as. 

Transgender people just want to use the bathroom like a normal human being. And I know it might be harder for you with your cis privilege to grasp the struggle and fear that us trans people have to face in this basic matter, but I encourage you to try.

 A transgender woman wants to use the ladies bathroom, but she might get yelled at or glared at by people like you. 

If she uses the men's bathroom, she WILL get glared at and yelled at, and possibly assaulted. How does the kind of terror she must be facing compare to your feeling of discomfort at seeing her? You really have no idea what she is experiencing, and I guarantee it's worse than your petty ordeal. Much worse. She just wants to pee. Unless you are interested in looking through the stall door at her, I'm not sure what your worry is.  

Some trans people refuse to even use public restrooms, and as a result develop severe bladder infections or kidney issues. 

And consider this as well: Some trans women pass so well (if they're on hormones) that you may have been in a bathroom with a couple already, at some point in your life! And obviously nothing bad happened, am I right? 

Point is, just let the woman piss. She's got more than enough on her plate that you will never experience, without people breathing down her neck. There are bigger things to worry about than the lady in the stall next to you.