(April 27, 2016 at 4:37 am)robvalue Wrote: I think you're right. It's just about how honest we are prepared to be, both with ourselves and our partners. Of course, some couples might just be happy not needing to know anything about it. There's nothing wrong with that.
One reason my son's other and I had such a healthy love life is that we were both open to elements of fantasy being present in our lovemaking -- role-playing, mild BDSM, or even taking a fantasy and living it out IRL.
(April 27, 2016 at 4:37 am)robvalue Wrote: It's not like I bombard Emma with every little thought that goes through my head, just the ones that turn out to be significant in some way; even if they're not rational. My depression is extremely good at twisting things to try and wreck my life, by isolating me. I have to talk about them, or else they consume me. Once they're out in the open, I can see them for what they are.
Writing is an excellent antidote to that -- as is posting here, I would imagine. It's funny you talk about your depression isolating you. I've found that my alcoholism does the same damned thing; I would eat my feelings when I was drinking, if I wasn't able to post them, because I damned sure wasn't going to share them in real life.
