I know I'm jumping in this thread late, but here's my opinion on spanking. I was beaten as a kid. Some people here know that. My mother's third husband stood six foot three and weighed at least 300 pounds. The belt he hit me with had metal grommets around the holes. Those fuckers left welts the size of half dollars on your ass if you didn't put enough underpants and sweats on to soften the blows. I was beaten with that belt for seven years while my mother did absolutely nothing. My sister did not get such treatment, for she was the golden child, the favorite.
I have only ever spanked one of my kids once. I felt so guilty about it that I cried. She's never been spanked since. Instead, I have found more creative ways of discipline. Taking away electronics is the first thing to go. The second thing to go is letting them have friends over. I have never gotten to that step. Both of my daughters are well respectable, kind and empathetic people. They know not to break the rules because there is mutual respect in my house.
I cannot say the same for my stepsons, however. Their mother, up until two years ago, regularly beat them with whatever was handy - kitchen utensils, belts, her hand etc. And she would do it in front of other people - making them bend over a chair with their bare bottoms exposed. The last beating the oldest one got was when he was 12. It was so bad that when he came to us on the weekend, he told us that he did not want to go back to his mother because she scared him. Needless to say, we called the police and the officer was concerned enough that he got CPS involved. We neded up getting a restraining order against her for a month. She now has a permanent, partial PFA in place, where she is not to use any form of corporal punishment on the boys whatsoever.
We don't use physical forms of discipline in our house no matter what. No matter how bad a kid is acting up, we find ways to deal with it without the use of hitting, beating, spanking etc. Because of this, both boys want to come live with us. They see their mother as a tyrant and they have no respect for her. I can certainly understand why - from living that myself as a kid and through what I have seen of that woman's behavior, as well.
Physical discipline is, in my opinion, completely unnecessary. Especially in this day and age when there are so many other ways to discipline.
I have only ever spanked one of my kids once. I felt so guilty about it that I cried. She's never been spanked since. Instead, I have found more creative ways of discipline. Taking away electronics is the first thing to go. The second thing to go is letting them have friends over. I have never gotten to that step. Both of my daughters are well respectable, kind and empathetic people. They know not to break the rules because there is mutual respect in my house.
I cannot say the same for my stepsons, however. Their mother, up until two years ago, regularly beat them with whatever was handy - kitchen utensils, belts, her hand etc. And she would do it in front of other people - making them bend over a chair with their bare bottoms exposed. The last beating the oldest one got was when he was 12. It was so bad that when he came to us on the weekend, he told us that he did not want to go back to his mother because she scared him. Needless to say, we called the police and the officer was concerned enough that he got CPS involved. We neded up getting a restraining order against her for a month. She now has a permanent, partial PFA in place, where she is not to use any form of corporal punishment on the boys whatsoever.
We don't use physical forms of discipline in our house no matter what. No matter how bad a kid is acting up, we find ways to deal with it without the use of hitting, beating, spanking etc. Because of this, both boys want to come live with us. They see their mother as a tyrant and they have no respect for her. I can certainly understand why - from living that myself as a kid and through what I have seen of that woman's behavior, as well.
Physical discipline is, in my opinion, completely unnecessary. Especially in this day and age when there are so many other ways to discipline.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
