Forgiveness, with a twist ?

[Jackalope]

I can forgive someone for wrongdoing - but that doesn't necessarily overcome the desire/need to be made whole. (e.g. I'm not going to hold onto bad feelings but you're paying me back.)

I think that attitude is reasonable. I think restitution is a necessary part of it so as to not be enabling of bad behavior, whether through carelessness or malice.