Forgiveness, with a twist ?

[vorlon13]

I had made a point of acting as though a high school teacher I had (over 40 years ago) that I very occasionally run into was invisible and inaudible. (I won't go into specifics, but he humiliated me in class one day to the extent everyone else was laughing at me, instead of with, I never forget that)

I recently encountered him and engaged in small talk.  I'll never be warm an effusive to him, but I don't think after 4 decades 'social death' is warranted.

I managed to be civil to a cousins MiL recently, she's never actually offended me, but she's nevertheless a vile person.

Also, I would talk to another cousin now if I run into her.  For starters, she never shuts up, so she may not be aware I'm giving her the cold shoulder anyhow, and the 'incident' that annoys me has been adjudicated in her divorce for her cretin husband.  (I had given him some stereo equipment for his car, and she got POd at him at some point and had burned most of his clothing and destroyed his car stereo.  He had the balls to ask for another, which earned them both a place on the dishonor roll)

Anyhow, my period of 'glasnost and perestroika' stems from the embezzlement and cosmetic surgery instances of forgiving. Else I it might never have occurred to me to change "The Policy".