Asexual Love.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Sexuality is a part of romance, to me. If I love a woman that way, I love a woman that way, too.

There are gals in my life whom I love, we're completely platonic and and I doubt I'd ever try to stretch that (imaginary?) boundary out. It could be romantic love given the right circumstances, but time and circumstances have made it not so. I'm cool with it.

But I'm a horndog, and if we love each other enough to sleep together, we'll damned well wake up to some wonderful morningsex. If she shows she ain't willing for that, she doesn't get in bed the night before.

Ideally (IMO), sex is a part of a close relationship. But, what if the person you were with could no longer get it on for some reason? 
Would you be willing to maintain/continue a relationship without sex, under those circumstances?

No right or wrong answer in my view, btw...I'm just asking out of general nosiness.

I've failed at this. My son's mother was diagnosed with cancer the last year we were together, and that was a big part of our breakup. I couldn't take the anger she felt and expressed onto me at the shit sandwich life served her. Lord knows I tried ... but I failed. And it wasn't about sex, at all, but about emotional closeness -- and its slow demise, in that case. I bail out of situations where I feel unwanted, or unneeded, or useless, and that was one of them. And for that reason, neither of us could feel the emotional closeness that we each held requisite for good lovin'. The last two months we were together we didn't sleep in the same bed. I couldn't. The anger she vented not just at me but onto me made such a thought undoable. And no doubt she felt the same way about my defensiveness -- I mean, how attractive can that be?

I didn't leave because I wasn't getting any trim -- I left because the emotional atmosphere was unbreathable. I failed my own ideals in so doing, too. I was willing -- and tried -- to stay with her, and sex was not the issue. But in the end, I left, because while the right hand can take care of the sex drive for a time, what do we have to pick up the slack when emotionally we're not fulfilled?

So I guess my answer is "I don't know". Sometimes the same thing that takes sex out of the picture takes out a lot more than just the knocking of boots, y'know? My lover losing the ability to express her love physically wouldn't ruin our love ... but what about the emotions such a change causes, outside the bedroom?

So to answer your question -- in the abstract, no, the loss of sex wouldn't ruin the love. But how we two handle the emotions aroused by whatever inflicted such a grievous blow, well, that's where the rubber meets the road, now isn't it?