(September 27, 2016 at 10:48 am)mlmooney89 Wrote:How heart breaking... That in your world love is a fleeting thing... And what's more you are ok with that. That is almost as sad as a little kid knowing he is not going to have any Christmas presents because his parents Dont believe in it.(September 27, 2016 at 8:51 am)Drich Wrote: ....and if who you are changes to something he dislikes? what if 10 years from now who you were is a pail reflection of who you are then? Where would your husband be? I could not sleep at night if my wife's love was solely dependent on me being the same person she married 15 years ago.
Look at brad and angelina, I am 100% sure she loved him for who he was, and at the same time divorced him for who he was...
Yet this is the love you are bragging about??? Seriously?!?!?
People change and you either fall in love with them all over again or you fall out of love.
On one hand that is his relaity, but on the other it's sad that he is ok with his diminished childhood.
Yes people do fall out of love, but what if you didn't have to? Would you choose to love someone forever or at least for a life time if you could?
I have this lifetime love and i can tell you nothing could be better.
Quote:Love doesn't hafta be forever, it doesn't lessen the love you had for the person at the time in who they were then. I've been married before and we were together from the time I was 16 to 23. The day we got married I was very happy and in love. But at that age you are still finding out what you want in life. He ended up changing his mind about what he wanted. He decided he wanted the military life and to move around the world. I was a military brat that was done with the military and wanted one home and stability. I ended up falling out of love with the new him and we divorced.But, what if he decided that 'he' was now a 'we' and no longer lived for self but adopted the role Christ had for a husband? what if.. whatever he decided both of you could agree on and come to terms with? would you want to be able to live as a "we" for the rest of your life?
Quote:My husband now has gone through huge changes in his personality and I just keep falling more in love with him every day. To compare him now to who he was when we first started dating is like looking at two different people but I have loved both versions of him. Human love isn't unconditional it is based on trust and (despite our lack of faith in god) faith in the person. I have faith that our love is more than any other emotion. At least I can hear my love tell me he loves me back and it's not in my imagination or some old book.Imagine what you have now and apply it to the first guy, where/when the passion of youth was stronger but the bond of a more secure love/relationship, and now add a man who does not live for self who is not an individual but an extension of yourself.
That is what i say you are missing. you have experienced different strengths of the elements of love at different times in your life, but again what if you could experience what you experienced and what you missed all at once in the same person?
