The Peacemaking Thread

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Being willing to talk openly, honestly and calmly about whatever issues may have arose. Allowing each party to talk, and to really be heard. I've found this to often be a stumbling block. Hysterical reactions and language are a huge barrier.

Owning any upset that has been caused, intended or not; and mistakes that have been made. Working towards forgiveness where possible. Where it is not possible, at least acknowledging that the other party is truly sorry and intends to act differently in the future (if that is indeed the case).

Being flexible and coming to new arrangements if needed.

(I've had situations in my [real] life where I've had to let go of what has happened in the past, for my own sanity. I can stop holding a grudge about it, so to speak. But I can't exactly give forgiveness, because the people involved either never acknowledged fault, never cared about the upset they caused, or just continued to do the same thing. This last is particularly difficult. I can't forgive you for punching me in the face while you're still doing it. You have to at least stop.)