So, we ended up getting Pathfinder, and spending ages rolling (and rerolling) characters. Then we only played 3 or 4 sessions. 
Hubby asked me to put a lot of effort into it, because he was doing a lot of reading and research to DM for us. He gave us a limited list of races and classes to pick from. Not too limited, some expanded classes. I took it seriously and spent many hours researching for my own and my daughter's characters.
So after a ton of reading, I picked Witch. I have a thing for witches right now. Getting older, I'm starting to embrace my inner crone, I guess, lol. I loved the idea of debuffing, buffing, battlfield control, etc. I built a character in my head and on paper, details of her life, history, birthplace, experiences, family, everything! She was slightly batty, but wise, overly curious about everything. I planned to give her prehensile hair (not a full white haired witch, but similar), a raven familiar, and the wonderful cackle hex. I had her planned to lvl 6. Sleep, Fly, fortune, misfortune, prehensile hair, etc and all the feats and everything for every level.
I was very excited to play her. I even spent a whole day drawing her on the place on my character sheet.
One session in, and my husband tells me he hates her. He doesn't like that she's old, or that she's a bit batty. He does not think I'm taking it seriously, because I'm having too much fun and laughing a lot I guess? He says, we already have a 9 year old playing, he doesn't need me to be like that too. Plus, he's worried I'll be bored after a while, since I don't do a lot of straight out damage in battle. I said, but half the game is the roleplay, and I'm still plenty useful in battle! Our daughter picked Druid, and she's got a pet, plus hubby is playing a Teifling mage. He made us plenty powerful, so it worked for the druid and wolf to tank/off tank, me to sleep extra creatures, and him to nuke stuff. It seemed fine to me.
Meh, he threw the whole character sheet in the trash. I told him not to, I wanted to keep it. So I have her stored, and I rerolled. I told him, just let me make a paladin then. Easy to play, not a ton of effort, and I can play it serious, like HE wants. But no, he rolled me an effing Magus. Seriously, THE MOST complicated class in the game. Google it, you'll see everyone says (not for beginners). I tell him, I'm worried we'll fight over the mechanics, he dismisses my concerns, but of course we end up fighting over the mechanics. I finally basically just tell him I'll do whatever he wants. Just let us play the effing game.
I don't know jack about this character, her background or anything. I honestly at this moment cannot remember her name, because he had a fit over the names I was picking as well. We did play a few more sessions. I tried very hard to be invested and have a good time, and not dwell on shit. 2 weeks ago, I asked if we are gonna play again, but he says he's too busy now, maybe over holiday break.
I'm SOOO GLAD he could spend our entire summer budget on this. What a blast. I love roleplaying, and gaming, but not with him. He's a control freak and an utter killjoy. I literally do not know what I'm doing anymore.
Oh, roleplaying tabletop games, pfft. Yeah. Love em, if you have a good group and DM who facilitates roleplay, and not just doing what THEY want.
Hubby asked me to put a lot of effort into it, because he was doing a lot of reading and research to DM for us. He gave us a limited list of races and classes to pick from. Not too limited, some expanded classes. I took it seriously and spent many hours researching for my own and my daughter's characters.
So after a ton of reading, I picked Witch. I have a thing for witches right now. Getting older, I'm starting to embrace my inner crone, I guess, lol. I loved the idea of debuffing, buffing, battlfield control, etc. I built a character in my head and on paper, details of her life, history, birthplace, experiences, family, everything! She was slightly batty, but wise, overly curious about everything. I planned to give her prehensile hair (not a full white haired witch, but similar), a raven familiar, and the wonderful cackle hex. I had her planned to lvl 6. Sleep, Fly, fortune, misfortune, prehensile hair, etc and all the feats and everything for every level.
I was very excited to play her. I even spent a whole day drawing her on the place on my character sheet.
One session in, and my husband tells me he hates her. He doesn't like that she's old, or that she's a bit batty. He does not think I'm taking it seriously, because I'm having too much fun and laughing a lot I guess? He says, we already have a 9 year old playing, he doesn't need me to be like that too. Plus, he's worried I'll be bored after a while, since I don't do a lot of straight out damage in battle. I said, but half the game is the roleplay, and I'm still plenty useful in battle! Our daughter picked Druid, and she's got a pet, plus hubby is playing a Teifling mage. He made us plenty powerful, so it worked for the druid and wolf to tank/off tank, me to sleep extra creatures, and him to nuke stuff. It seemed fine to me.
Meh, he threw the whole character sheet in the trash. I told him not to, I wanted to keep it. So I have her stored, and I rerolled. I told him, just let me make a paladin then. Easy to play, not a ton of effort, and I can play it serious, like HE wants. But no, he rolled me an effing Magus. Seriously, THE MOST complicated class in the game. Google it, you'll see everyone says (not for beginners). I tell him, I'm worried we'll fight over the mechanics, he dismisses my concerns, but of course we end up fighting over the mechanics. I finally basically just tell him I'll do whatever he wants. Just let us play the effing game.
I don't know jack about this character, her background or anything. I honestly at this moment cannot remember her name, because he had a fit over the names I was picking as well. We did play a few more sessions. I tried very hard to be invested and have a good time, and not dwell on shit. 2 weeks ago, I asked if we are gonna play again, but he says he's too busy now, maybe over holiday break.
I'm SOOO GLAD he could spend our entire summer budget on this. What a blast. I love roleplaying, and gaming, but not with him. He's a control freak and an utter killjoy. I literally do not know what I'm doing anymore.
Oh, roleplaying tabletop games, pfft. Yeah. Love em, if you have a good group and DM who facilitates roleplay, and not just doing what THEY want.
“Eternity is a terrible thought. I mean, where's it going to end?”
― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead
― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead
