(January 11, 2017 at 3:43 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: I'm 23, a junior in college and I've never slept with, kissed, made out or had sex with a single girl in my 23 years of existence! Someone told me once that I'll probably remain a virgin for the rest of my lifetime since girls find that to be a huge turnoff. I don't know, it doesn't help that I'm very shy either. I dress normally, not weird and have good hygiene. I usually wear black or blue vans with black socks and then tan or olive cargo shorts and a plain t shirt. Sometimes long, and short depending on the weather. And I'm usually wearing a baseball cap. I wear deodorant, take showers regularly and brush my teeth. But I guess since I'm not drop dead gorgeous girls just aren't attracted to me
I'm not expecting some super model to fall out of the sky and want to date me right away. But I just feel like I have zero attractive traits whatsoever and that girls just aren't attracted to me.
Like I said, I'm not weird or anything. I'm just shy and keep to myself. I am a very nice person though. Maybe I'm too nice? My Mom has told me I'm quite a great listener as well.
I don't live on campus either, I live by myself.
Don't believe the lie that girls in general don't like men who are "too nice."
Every girl is different, but the ones who like bad boys are probably not the type of girls you want to be with anyway.
My husband's sweet, calm demeanor and his lack of being a "play boy" were actually some of the traits that attracted me to him the most when I first met him at 19 years old. He was a virgin at that time as well, though he had had one girlfriend but they never did anything past kissing. I actually really appreciated his virginity and the fact that he took those things seriously and wanted to wait for marriage.
Don't think of yourself as lesser for not having had sex with someone yet. There is 0 reason to feel that way.
As for some advice, beyond having good hygiene, try taking care of yourself as well... if you don't already. Work out, eat healthy, and dress appropriately. As a plus, you will feel more confident in yourself when you do those things, and that may help you break out of your shell and meet more people.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh
