The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Autumnlicious]

I liked Eli too.

I remember the whole thing being over her insisting that blame and responsibility were exactly the same thing basically. So suggesting a woman take sensible precautions in high risk situations was blaming her as far as she was concerned.

It's a shame she couldn't see past that because she was an otherwise great member.

It wasn't that.

It was far simpler - she overextended her position, got defensive and did not back down. It became personal. The topic itself is irrelevant - she participated in similar discussions without incident. It was all a matter of face as far as I could see.

Unfortunate as it is, but it turns out that alienating people closer to your side is highly destructive, both to the argument and to the person. She self destructed over little. Perhaps something else in her life was destabilizing her - we wouldn't know about that though.