So my older brother is being buried today.

[Whateverist]

Sorry for your loss, Whateverist.

Try to remember any good times you had.

But I totally understand and support (not that you need it) your choice not to go.

Thanks.  I think death is probably not so spooky to you either.  It is just inevitable.  My brother didn't do anything we won't all do eventually.  But he is gone and I don't curse his memory, but my god he could be a prick.

You're right.  There were good memories too.  He was freakishly big in middle school.  When I stupidly beat the tough kids in the only sport I excelled at, handball, several of them were waiting for me after school.  When I strode purposefully up to say hello to my big brother after class they just melted away.  Crisis averted.