Sorry for your loss, Whateverist.

Try to remember any good times you had.

But I totally understand and support (not that you need it) your choice not to go.

(April 10, 2017 at 4:14 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Sorry for your loss, Whateverist.

Try to remember any good times you had.

But I totally understand and support (not that you need it) your choice not to go.

Thanks.  I think death is probably not so spooky to you either.  It is just inevitable.  My brother didn't do anything we won't all do eventually.  But he is gone and I don't curse his memory, but my god he could be a prick.

You're right.  There were good memories too.  He was freakishly big in middle school.  When I stupidly beat the tough kids in the only sport I excelled at, handball, several of them were waiting for me after school.  When I strode purposefully up to say hello to my big brother after class they just melted away.  Crisis averted.

*hugs*

Brian37 Wrote:

Mister Agenda Wrote:1 of 10, counting halves and steps. I have a half-brother who mooched off me a lot. I can sympathize with not being able to muster a lot of emotional investment. I'll be sorry when he's gone though (I'm older, but he's been putting on more miles).

It is only mooching when you financially drain someone. It isn't mooching when you agree to do it and can afford it. Husbands and wives are not always equal in pay and sometimes one of them does not have a job. Nothing wrong with supporting family, but not if they are draining you. 

I consider myself extremely lucky because my mom had enough for both of us and she was never at risk of being homeless. In return she got lots of help from me shopping going to appointments and even just spending time with her was a joy. 

I will say this, while if you decide to support someone, and they are the ones asking, it is still your choice to say no. 

I had a friend who really was not my friend, who kept asking me for money. The only thing I wanted from him was honesty. If he said he could pay me back, do it. If he said he couldn't pay me back, I'd still have considered it, but he always said he would but never did. I got tired of that.

I just paid to have my other long time friend to fly out to visit me in June. I DONT expect him to pay me back and right now I can afford it.

Can you give me an example of mooching where the person being mooched on doesn't agree to it? I'm pretty sure that's just stealing. I'm not going to give you a long diatribe about my half-brother sponging off anyone he could manipulate into letting him use them, I'll just point out that it isn't your place to comment on whether my brother was mooching off me given the scant information you possess.

mooch
/mo͞oCH/
verb
informal
gerund or present participle: mooching
1.
North American
ask for or obtain (something) without paying for it.
"a bunch of your friends will show up, mooching food"


synonyms: beg, ask for money, borrow; More