Using sir and ma'am to address people...

[vorlon13]

I remember a departmental secretary many years ago I always addressed as Ms. Tracy and I even tried to put a southern twang on it a bit.  I could tell she liked it, and since most of the other dwellers of cubeville openly thought she was crazy as a bed bug (she was) it helped me to get my items faster and I'd like to think with a little better results.

Unlike a later replacement . .

Company policy of course forbid me calling that one 'bitch' and I didn't, and I didn't ever even when she was out of ear shot.  What I found galling however, was that virtually everyone else did refer to her as 'bitch' (or far worse) when she was out of ear shot.  And she wasn't above fucking up a document if she got wind of any disgruntlement towards her in cubeville.

BTW, I've googled many folks as of late, and I find something about most everyone I look for.  Except her.  She has apparently left this mortal coil without a trace.

maybe Satan assimilated her from the timeline for a special project ?

How about that.Moved out of state shortly after retirement (I knew about retiring, not moving away) and that's why I never found anything

Obit was printed in town I lived in, that's how I found her

Outlived husband.  Never ever mentioned him, no pictures at work, no one suspected she was ever married*

 Had kids!  Never spoke of them, no pictures at work, no one suspected

 "Guest book" feature at funeral home site had NO names from anyone in our department at the time of her retirement.  No particular surprise there.

 I'm inferring from positive comments from out of state friends her bitterness might have been entirely confined to place of employment.  Additionally, since her career was entirely separate from her private life, safe bet her private life was untouched by her career too.

 LOL, she was WAY older than she looked (and good for her).  Still, that works both ways, her bitterness stemmed from being kicked out of her executive secretarial position when she became a little 'long in the tooth', but if she was older than she looked, her time in the executive suite was actually longer than she might have reasonably expected otherwise.  And that's where her bitterness with us arose.  She felt she should have still been a secretary at the executive level, and she took out being stuck with us on us.  Bitch**.  Take it up with the executives who hired you when you were younger and YOU displaced an older secretary of that era, condemning her to just what happened to you later.


*I think I can infer a DIVORCE from that. Whadda ya think ??


**Well, that's closure for me, and everyone else she was nasty to.  You know, that was a big place, thousands of employees.  I'm sure I encountered several unpleasant, even vile, people my time there.  Why does this one stick out?  It was the bitterness and the relentless infliction of it on everyone in my area, UNDESERVEDLY.  We had nothing to do with her being bounced from the executive level.  I recall her 'turning up' after a departmental reorganization that corresponded to my getting out of my "sobriety motel" and getting an actual apartment to live in, so I put up with her hostility for over 5 years.  The  6 FSEs that came with her in the reorg had, IIRC, about 2 more years of her than I did.  I recall a discussion with my supervisor about dropping a conduct report on her, but that would have been in the time frame when  the RDG test was winding down, and she retired shortly thereafter.  And with that timing, there wouldn't have been much impetus to drop a conduct report on her.  And I was thrown a bone, I could use a secretary in an adjoining department.  Hawthorne Effect there, while relentlessly pleasant, the other sec had spare time up the wazoo because she had limited skills.  

LOL, office politics !!!