(August 3, 2017 at 9:42 am)vorlon13 Wrote: Brian has defaulted into that category since he died and no longer has the opportunity to fuck up my feelings for him, not that I think he could regardless.
And it looks like I'm equating unconditional with perpetual, sue me.
Dewey is still living, I can't imagine my feelings for him changing, they've strengthened over the years (LOL, decades) since I've last seen him. I 'grok' him better the older I get and have experiences that illuminate to me what he had already been thru when we met and how he became the person I met and fell for. And then finding out about the heyoka thing, that clinched the deal. Heyokas have slipped into US culture a few times; Younger Bear in Little Big Man was probably the first, and while not explicitly referenced as such in the movie, John Dunbar in Dances With Wolves was clearly drawn as a heyoka.
Whaaaa? Not quite sure what you meant by this.
I think "love" can be AWESOME in the right relationship, and if you have that you have everything. All I am saying is that "love" is an artificial word and means different things to different people.
The deep feelings we have for those we are close to can feel extremely great. It can literally boost your immune system. All I was pointing out is it is ultimately bonding which is evolutionary.
Not trying to rain on anyone's parade here by merely saying even the things we find awe inspiring are still natural.
I simply have a problem with the word "unconditional", not evolutionary bonding itself.
I deeply love my cat, but that isn't the same deep love I had for my mother.
So not really sure what you mean by this post.
