Don't we have a member who has two girlfriends and they all date each other? Maybe he can give us insight.
As for me, age has brought many things into my 32 year old head and taken many others. I don't dwell on things that wouldn't make sense in my life. I can barely afford to take one person on a date, I can't take two. I have two kids to love, nurture, look after... I don't feel like adding two or more people. I get more tired faster. Fuck having to maintain my energy levels high enough to be a mother of two, AND have a relationship with two or more other people. People say "the more the merrier", but I think there would be more drama and it would take extra work for everyone to feel appreciated, loved, acknowledged. I think it is possible to love more than one person, but I also think it's not practical.
I'm too old for a porn style life. Maybe I've also matured. In real life, some things aren't as exciting when put into practice and all they do is drain you. For twenty something year olds, perhaps it might be fun. For a grown ass woman like me, not so much. When I care about someone, I fucking give my everything. I want them to know. If I were in a polyamory relationship, I'd be worried all the time about how they felt when I didn't balance things out just perfectly.
So, if I'm not ready to be in a monogamous relationship, I rather just be truthful and continue to date people enjoying the freedom of casualness. But... if I ever do enter a true relationship, it will probably be vanilla, in the sense that there won't be a third mouth to feed when going out to dinner, and we'll probably spend most of our time sometimes talking about life stuff while drinking IPAs, and sometimes in complete silence not worrying about the other being upset, because I was smart enough to pick someone who doesn't mind giving me space.
In conclusion, polyamory... not for me. I changed my mind. If someone has the enery for it, enjoy.
As for me, age has brought many things into my 32 year old head and taken many others. I don't dwell on things that wouldn't make sense in my life. I can barely afford to take one person on a date, I can't take two. I have two kids to love, nurture, look after... I don't feel like adding two or more people. I get more tired faster. Fuck having to maintain my energy levels high enough to be a mother of two, AND have a relationship with two or more other people. People say "the more the merrier", but I think there would be more drama and it would take extra work for everyone to feel appreciated, loved, acknowledged. I think it is possible to love more than one person, but I also think it's not practical.
I'm too old for a porn style life. Maybe I've also matured. In real life, some things aren't as exciting when put into practice and all they do is drain you. For twenty something year olds, perhaps it might be fun. For a grown ass woman like me, not so much. When I care about someone, I fucking give my everything. I want them to know. If I were in a polyamory relationship, I'd be worried all the time about how they felt when I didn't balance things out just perfectly.
So, if I'm not ready to be in a monogamous relationship, I rather just be truthful and continue to date people enjoying the freedom of casualness. But... if I ever do enter a true relationship, it will probably be vanilla, in the sense that there won't be a third mouth to feed when going out to dinner, and we'll probably spend most of our time sometimes talking about life stuff while drinking IPAs, and sometimes in complete silence not worrying about the other being upset, because I was smart enough to pick someone who doesn't mind giving me space.
In conclusion, polyamory... not for me. I changed my mind. If someone has the enery for it, enjoy.
"Hipster is what happens when young hot people do what old ladies do." -Exian
