I am socially anxious, I think I was a lot worse when I was younger. It's still weird with me now because in general people say I'm anti social I am and I should get out more, but I also get compliments that people love to talk to me for hours, I can keep a convo going easily and people feel really comfortable telling me everything.
But this is a list off the top of my head of things that I think helped me.....
1) Listening to other people talk. I listen to a lot of podcasts with a preference for topics on comedy or interesting facts. I think this helped because I would always think that I shouldn't say something if it's weird, too extreme or too random. But listening to comedians and entertainers talk made me realize that stuff can be really funny and interesting just because it's so random or extreme.
2) Practice. Some people seem to be naturally gifted socially but I think other people have to practice, I think it helped me. To cut a long story short my progression basically went from online typing, to phone convo, to in person convo. This relates to what I mentioned in the previous paragraph about saying random or extreme things, with practice of saying things that maybe considered random or extreme you find out what in general gets laughs and positive reactions vs negative reactions. This is easy online because there's not as much social pressure and you can skip from person to person from convo to convo.
3) Doing things that make you confident. For me going to the gym and feeling fit is what get's my confidence higher, but it could be any sort of skill or achievement.
4) For me personally it helped me to realize that I am just anti social to an extent and that no amount of practise or confidence will help me talk to some people in some situations because deep down I really just don't want to. I don't find everyone interesting to talk to, I don't like a lot of people, a lot of people will never like me and I don't have any interest in trying hard to change it.
But this is a list off the top of my head of things that I think helped me.....
1) Listening to other people talk. I listen to a lot of podcasts with a preference for topics on comedy or interesting facts. I think this helped because I would always think that I shouldn't say something if it's weird, too extreme or too random. But listening to comedians and entertainers talk made me realize that stuff can be really funny and interesting just because it's so random or extreme.
2) Practice. Some people seem to be naturally gifted socially but I think other people have to practice, I think it helped me. To cut a long story short my progression basically went from online typing, to phone convo, to in person convo. This relates to what I mentioned in the previous paragraph about saying random or extreme things, with practice of saying things that maybe considered random or extreme you find out what in general gets laughs and positive reactions vs negative reactions. This is easy online because there's not as much social pressure and you can skip from person to person from convo to convo.
3) Doing things that make you confident. For me going to the gym and feeling fit is what get's my confidence higher, but it could be any sort of skill or achievement.
4) For me personally it helped me to realize that I am just anti social to an extent and that no amount of practise or confidence will help me talk to some people in some situations because deep down I really just don't want to. I don't find everyone interesting to talk to, I don't like a lot of people, a lot of people will never like me and I don't have any interest in trying hard to change it.
Are you ready for the fire? We are firemen. WE ARE FIREMEN! The heat doesn’t bother us. We live in the heat. We train in the heat. It tells us that we’re ready, we’re at home, we’re where we’re supposed to be. Flames don’t intimidate us. What do we do? We control the flame. We control them. We move the flames where we want to. And then we extinguish them.
Impersonation is treason.
