(October 5, 2017 at 1:39 pm)Bahana Wrote: This seems to be a popular approach in a lot of the books I'm reading. When I used to go to counselors in the 90s they didn't seem to use this as much. They did the old "I'm here to let you listen to yourself" stuff. I think it may have been better if they would have offered more suggestions. Anyone here have a background in Psychology who has studied this more in depth? What is your view on it? The books promoting it say that it is backed by multiple studies but I haven't heard much from the other side.
You know, it really depends on the severity of what's bothering you.
'I'm here to let you listen to yourself', is called reflection.
In my opinion, the majority of people need someone to listen to their problems and then reflect those problems back to them so they know that the receiver has been listening.
Often people know what the answers are but need a bit of back up from someone who cares.
It's like that 'teaching people to fish instead of giving them fish', thing.
Behavioural therapy is the next step and even then it starts with giving people more tools to help themselves.
