Porn, porn and more porn!

[Catholic_Lady]

Having sex with your wife rather than masturbating to porn doesn't seem like that much to ask. I'd feel pretty shitty if he'd rather do that than have sex with me.

They're very different experiences.  Sometimes it's nice to be by yourself and have a relaxing go of things.  Sex with wife is way better.  But they are so different, that it's more about what someone is in the mood for, than rejecting one for the other.  

I think the disconnect may be that one woman can be more than enough in reality.  But in the fantasy reel that is playing in our heads, I'd be very surprised if it was always just one person for any man.  Is the line that's crossed for you physically seeing it?  Would you be hurt if there was imaginings going on?

But he would still prefer that to having sex with me (or just looking at my naked pics) at that moment.

Also, theres the betrayal part of it for me because sex is an "us" thing. We were both V's when we married and so it's something we've only experienced with each other. It feels exclussive to us and our relationship, and I like that. It's our special thing, if you will, and introducing another person into the mix (even if she's just on the TV screen) wouldn't sit right with me one bit.

I would also be hurt if I knew he was day dreaming about having sex with other women. Now before anyone says anything, let me say theres a difference between A. seeing an attractive person and thinking they are hot (and even having an involuntary moment of arousal) but going on about your day..., and B. taking the time to voluntarily day dream and fantasize about having sex with them.

I would feel upset about the latter.