Actually, psychologists and sex therapists say a fantasy sex life is healthy. I understand some of the objections to porn, because it involves real, live people in the sex industry. But what is there to object to about your SO imagining getting it on with a famous person? Or both of you dressing up and pretending?
Nothing, that's what. It will actually improve your sex live AND your relationship.
And the fact is, if you tell your partner that you will be emotionally crushed if they so much as think of Emilia Clarke or whoever during intercourse with you, how do you think that will impact your relationship?
Ok, let's say person A is involved in their SO's fantasies, so he tells her about them, shares them with her, and they participate in them together.
Person B says she will be crushed if her SO has a fantasy about another person. In his head only mind you. But they both equate it similar to cheating.
Let's say both SO's A and B want to be monogamous, but SO B is angry at her one day, or doesn't feel well, or hell, he just slips up and gives in and has a little fantasy about some actress.
Is he going to tell her, or is this going to become a lie, an omission, possibly the first of many?
And the other person, when they develop a new fantasy....their partner not only gets the truth, but gets to reap the sexual benefits of sharing in the fantasy life of their partner. Win/win!!
When it comes to this notion of repressing thoughts, Christianity is actually trading in a proven healthy and beneficial couple behavior (shared fantasy) for a very unhealthy one (lying).
Go ask all those Guys on Ashley Madison.
Nothing, that's what. It will actually improve your sex live AND your relationship.
And the fact is, if you tell your partner that you will be emotionally crushed if they so much as think of Emilia Clarke or whoever during intercourse with you, how do you think that will impact your relationship?
Ok, let's say person A is involved in their SO's fantasies, so he tells her about them, shares them with her, and they participate in them together.
Person B says she will be crushed if her SO has a fantasy about another person. In his head only mind you. But they both equate it similar to cheating.
Let's say both SO's A and B want to be monogamous, but SO B is angry at her one day, or doesn't feel well, or hell, he just slips up and gives in and has a little fantasy about some actress.
Is he going to tell her, or is this going to become a lie, an omission, possibly the first of many?
And the other person, when they develop a new fantasy....their partner not only gets the truth, but gets to reap the sexual benefits of sharing in the fantasy life of their partner. Win/win!!
When it comes to this notion of repressing thoughts, Christianity is actually trading in a proven healthy and beneficial couple behavior (shared fantasy) for a very unhealthy one (lying).
Go ask all those Guys on Ashley Madison.
“Eternity is a terrible thought. I mean, where's it going to end?”
― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead
― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead
