(June 4, 2018 at 6:53 pm)emjay Wrote: I don't see what good the blame game does here. It's just the nature of arguments that both sides say and do shit that they may regret, and that they both, in the heat of battle, misread each other or make assumptions etc about the other's motives. This site is not exactly the most calm place is it? Half the people here are angry half the time... myself included in that... and that's just a conservative estimateSo tbh I don't see Hammy as any more angry than anyone else really, just more obsessively persistent about getting his point across when he does get angry.
ETA: this was not in response to Jack's post, who ninjad me, just to the thread in general.
The point isn't that Hammy is more or less angry than anyone else, it's that he goes from 0 to calling people cunts in about 1 second. It's all about impulse control. Having that filter that stops most people from making an absolute ass out of themselves.
And, listen, I get it - it's difficult for him. He doesn't like tact because he feels it's dishonest. But it's really not. It's just restraint. It's the thing that stops most people from simply reacting viscerally to social stimuli. And, whether he likes it or not, he's going to need to learn how to employ some tact for his own survival.
I'm also surprised at how surprised and disappointed other people are about this whole situation. Hammy is someone who repeatedly claimed to be brutally honest, and as someone who disliked tact. How did you think this was going to end?
I think Hammy is a good guy deep inside, but he really needs to engage in honest self-reflection, not his typical "I thought about it, but you're wrong, and I'm going to tell you why, and I'm also not going to change my behavior because you're the one(s) that is/are wrong" response that he typically has.
