RE: Toxic masculinity and sexual assault
September 27, 2018 at 9:00 pm
(This post was last modified: September 27, 2018 at 9:07 pm by bennyboy.)
I would like to add gay men to the list of men capable of toxic masculinity.
When I was a teen and in my early 20's, I was on the streets a lot. At places with communal showers, it was fairly common for me to see guys touching themselves while they watched me shower. Once, when Welfare couldn't provide a place for me, a jogger picked me up early in a freezing Canadian morning-- I had blue lips, was shaking and all that. He took me home, gave me a cup of hot chocolate, and immediately started asking me questions about whether I ever masturbate, or whether I liked older men. He was very clearly getting off on how helpless I was.
Now, I'm not saying there's something worse about that than what a lot of girls go through, but it should be remembered that homosexual men are still men, and there's still very much of that instinct to dominate there based on my experience. My experiences with it were relatively minor brushes, but I'd bet that a lot of young men are raped by other men at parties, nightclubs, stuff like that.
I was also technically raped by older women in my teens, but that was statutory rape, and they had all kinds of consent from me. I enjoyed it a lot, but looking back I kind of wonder if it might have been healthier for me for my first sexual experiences not to have been with dancers or street walkers. I wish I could have just had a girlfriend from a nice neighborhood like most of my friends.
When I was a teen and in my early 20's, I was on the streets a lot. At places with communal showers, it was fairly common for me to see guys touching themselves while they watched me shower. Once, when Welfare couldn't provide a place for me, a jogger picked me up early in a freezing Canadian morning-- I had blue lips, was shaking and all that. He took me home, gave me a cup of hot chocolate, and immediately started asking me questions about whether I ever masturbate, or whether I liked older men. He was very clearly getting off on how helpless I was.
Now, I'm not saying there's something worse about that than what a lot of girls go through, but it should be remembered that homosexual men are still men, and there's still very much of that instinct to dominate there based on my experience. My experiences with it were relatively minor brushes, but I'd bet that a lot of young men are raped by other men at parties, nightclubs, stuff like that.
I was also technically raped by older women in my teens, but that was statutory rape, and they had all kinds of consent from me. I enjoyed it a lot, but looking back I kind of wonder if it might have been healthier for me for my first sexual experiences not to have been with dancers or street walkers. I wish I could have just had a girlfriend from a nice neighborhood like most of my friends.
