(November 22, 2018 at 12:48 pm)Crossless2.0 Wrote: FFS.
It was a few seconds among friends. Why the need to vent in the first place?
Not the point.
It really is a long term issue in our species. Not talking about something that bothers you can long term, allow those who never hear your concerns to assume. Not expressing your concerns, even in dating and relationships, can create needless animosity. This was just a annoying to me. Much like when my late mother would suddenly shout at me for missing a turn when I was driving her somewhere. Even with people you like and love, it is possible to be annoyed at their actions and still like and love them.
Letting someone know up front where you stand allows both of you to make that choice. Now again, if he can understand that, then it should not be that hard for anyone here to understand that.
Even if he had said, "Ok Brian, next time we won't invite you" I also would not have objected to that. Because it would not be a "f-you" on his part but merely "that is not Brian's thing". We still do other things together outside of holidays and we have since I have known him.
If you are swearing in a judge to their office, it will be their bench, but just like you don't force them to swear on a Koran, or Torah, or Talmud or Origin Of The Species, it is still their court sure, and they do get to decide what they put their hands on when taking the oath, but those who go in front of them are not obligated to swear in on that same book. It was his house, his court, but he was also a good host in understanding. I don't expect him or his wife to do that again. But he also expects if he comes over to my house I won't throw a fit if they pray. I simply wont partake in it.
Yes it was "a few seconds among friends" and we still are, and he was understanding to my objections. The explanation was also brief and among friends and the prayer still happened.
