(January 13, 2019 at 2:49 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: When I tell my dad I thought I failed a certain exam, he exploded. He told me that I'm not serious, I don't try enough. He told me that he and my mom make efforts so I can study. He had a long speech.
Why doesn't he realize he makes things worse? The time I use to listen to his speech is time I could use for learning. Not to mention it also takes time for me to calm down after said speech.
Why does he tell me I don't try enough? I really try my best, I really do. There is a lot of work and I'm struggling to keep up with it. I also do have some emotional problems, which I didn't tell him or mom, but still. I have a lot of mood swings and when I'm feeling down It's hard for me to concentrate while learning. I figured out it would be best to take some time to calm down and then continue learning, but even then I lose some time. What should I do if I get mood swings during an exam? It never happened before. I have a therapy appointment, but it's only after the end of the semester and I still have 4 exams to go.
He also told me that one day he might get really pissed and make me change universities. And that if I don't learn might as well get a job. I don't know if he really means it, or just trying to scare me.
If I try to talk to him he won't listen.
It is always possible that your dad is correct. For the sake of argument, let's assume he is not.
It may well be that you simply are not suited to whatever subject. As a parent, this would not cause me to "explode" in any way. Why? Because we are not all going to be Einstien or whoever. We are all our very own persons. Parents just have to suck it up and accept their children as people and not robots to do their bidding.
For example, my eldest aces in maths and physics. No interest in them, just is naturally good at them. And for a career? Linguistics. Why? Because that appeals more than the sciences. Fine by me. I am not about to break out the clubs and batter them into some career that they don't like, that would be stupid. Nevertheless, some parents consider it a solemn duty to do exactly that. They are wrong. Forcefully propelling one's children into a life purely on the basis of scores is never a good route.
