(February 6, 2019 at 4:57 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote:(February 6, 2019 at 4:38 pm)Brian37 Wrote: Not sure what you are looking for.
I have had times where people have pissed me off, hurt me, but it wasn't so bad that I feared being around them. Then I have had times where people hurt me or threatened me that I had enough.
I want no contact with him. But I also don't wish him ill. It was more than one event that caused me to cut ties with him.
My case is different. Sometimes, I have ill thoughts towards some who hurt me in the past, but it's an instinct thing, I use my mind to decide what I should do or not. I also do feel sometimes bad around people who had hurt me. I also believe that true forgiveness comes naturally. Maybe people convince themselves to forgive, but it needs time (depending on what happened). To be clear, I wasn't referring to your situation. It could be that our experiences are different.
It is natural to think, "Boy I would love to strangle that person." It is illegal to actually do it, and most decent humans to not act on their impulses.
It isn't that you have "ill" thoughts, but in that you are naturally reacting to how someone behaved to you. What really matters is how you respond to how others act to you. You cant control them, and you cant kill them legally, so the only thing you can do is make a decision as to what you are willing to tolerate or not tolerate.
