Forgiveness, as most people use it, doesn't absolve accountability, repentance or dismiss justice. From the OP it sounds like you stopped hating someone, which is good. It's good because change derived from bitterness instead of justice seldom is historically problematic in it's stability. I personally believe true forgiveness is a clean slate. That being said, as beings with a finite cause-effect timeline, it's practically impossible to not let that inform future behaviors. I suppose I'd say you've truly forgiven a person when: A. it doesn't bother you, what they did or you felt justice has been served and B. It doesn't affectively taint your bias in dealing with the other person in a meaningful way.
I would agree with Brian's point that it is highly subjective and personal. I would also agree with veoli's point that resolving the past gives a better present.
To Mr. Obvious, that's called lip service (more like dis-service) and usually does more harm in covering up problems then resolving them
I would agree with Brian's point that it is highly subjective and personal. I would also agree with veoli's point that resolving the past gives a better present.
To Mr. Obvious, that's called lip service (more like dis-service) and usually does more harm in covering up problems then resolving them
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
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