(February 6, 2019 at 8:37 pm)bennyboy Wrote:(February 6, 2019 at 7:57 pm)Brian37 Wrote: Even if you let it go, it does not mean you still have to keep company with the one who hurt you.
Absolutely not. Sometimes, the only way you can forgiveness, and mean it, is if you don't have that person's face there reminding you of whatever they did to you.
It's not, "Gee, dad, I forgive you for beating the shit out of me when I was a kid. . . I know you were struggling with alcohol, so let's go out and throw a ball just to catch up on the good ol' days." Although, sometimes it's that.
(February 6, 2019 at 8:09 pm)Gae Bolga Wrote: -whereas redemption absolves you even in the face of non-existent forgiveness.
That statement seems slightly cryptic to me. Can you elaborate what you mean by it?
I agree, sometimes some people go back to abusive people despite what was done to them, hoping things will change.
Those are odds I wouldn't bet on though.
