I try to forgive people who injure me. I truly do. I usually manage eventually. Sadly, my ex wife remains the single exception.
I say 'sadly' for my sake, not hers; she doesn't know how. I feel. My negative feelings are wasted, and that's THE point:
I try to let go of hatred and resentments because they harm me, the person. It's pragmatic to forgive. I think this also a sound psychological principle.
There is also the adage "Love your enemies, it will drive them nuts". Especially useful if one has schedenfreude.
There is a documentary about a Holocaust survivor who forgave her Nazis tormentors. She did this for herself, but received a lot of criticism from other survivors.
I guess it's a complex issue, as important things often are. I think the documentary below is worth some time, not necessary to watch the whole thing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PDA2QsN2sXs
I say 'sadly' for my sake, not hers; she doesn't know how. I feel. My negative feelings are wasted, and that's THE point:
I try to let go of hatred and resentments because they harm me, the person. It's pragmatic to forgive. I think this also a sound psychological principle.
There is also the adage "Love your enemies, it will drive them nuts". Especially useful if one has schedenfreude.
There is a documentary about a Holocaust survivor who forgave her Nazis tormentors. She did this for herself, but received a lot of criticism from other survivors.
I guess it's a complex issue, as important things often are. I think the documentary below is worth some time, not necessary to watch the whole thing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PDA2QsN2sXs
