(July 23, 2019 at 12:46 pm)Shell B Wrote: I personally wouldn't mind being insulted, but I wouldn't want their feelings to be hurt while they're grieving.
This to me is the basic point.
How often have we heard people around here say that we shouldn't hurt people's feelings? Being hurtful is not only allowed, it's applauded, if the recipient is on the not-approved list.