I've made it a policy in my life long ago that, no matter how much I like the person in question, I'm not going to do something with them that I don't enjoy doing just because I like said person. And I definitely won't do something because I feel put on the spot. Sure, it's possible that by doing this you'll realize you actually do like something you thought you didn't like... but chances are you'll just end up having a bad time and wishing you didn't go.
In cases where you feel put on the spot, you may even start to build resentment toward the person in question because you're feeling coerced to do things you don't want to do. Or, they might build a resentment against you because you don't "live up" to their expectations and change your mind about the event or activity in question. EVEN IF you explained to them before-hand that you wouldn't enjoy yourself.
I can remember a time when a coworker roped me into saying I'd go to church with her. She kept pushing the point and I sort of just said yes out of feeling uncomfortable in the moment and put on the spot.
Well, I didn't end up going, much to her disappointment. I explained to her that I didn't feel I'd gain any benefit out of going to church with her and that I only originally said yes because I was uncomfortable and felt pressured. I told her that if I did end up going and my experience there didn't live up to what she felt like it should've been, she might've started to get upset with me. She didn't seem to think such a thing would happen, but I told her it was probably just best I didn't go because I knew that attending a church service would do absolutely nothing for me.
That being said, don't agree to go to plays with your wife if you despise them that much. Probably just better to go do things with her you both enjoy.
In cases where you feel put on the spot, you may even start to build resentment toward the person in question because you're feeling coerced to do things you don't want to do. Or, they might build a resentment against you because you don't "live up" to their expectations and change your mind about the event or activity in question. EVEN IF you explained to them before-hand that you wouldn't enjoy yourself.
I can remember a time when a coworker roped me into saying I'd go to church with her. She kept pushing the point and I sort of just said yes out of feeling uncomfortable in the moment and put on the spot.
Well, I didn't end up going, much to her disappointment. I explained to her that I didn't feel I'd gain any benefit out of going to church with her and that I only originally said yes because I was uncomfortable and felt pressured. I told her that if I did end up going and my experience there didn't live up to what she felt like it should've been, she might've started to get upset with me. She didn't seem to think such a thing would happen, but I told her it was probably just best I didn't go because I knew that attending a church service would do absolutely nothing for me.
That being said, don't agree to go to plays with your wife if you despise them that much. Probably just better to go do things with her you both enjoy.
If you're frightened of dying, and you're holding on, you'll see devils tearing your life away. But if you've made your peace, then the devils are really angels, freeing you from the Earth.
