(September 24, 2019 at 1:13 pm)EgoDeath Wrote: I had the recent experience of having a family member ask for some money. I won't go into details, as it's really not important, but I will add that since the gift was given, I am weary of continuing this trend. It wasn't a loan, it was a one-time gift, and I made that clear. However, I'm worried that this family member may begin to expect more money as time goes on. I have no problem helping someone in need, especially if it's someone I care about. But the concern about enabling someone you love is a very real one, and I don't want this family member to think I'm their ticket to a free ride.
Have any of you guys had experience with this? How do you avoid enabling someone when you want to support them? Surely, I'm not breaking the bank by doing what I did, but I don't want it to continue either, even if I can afford it. It's one thing to help someone out once in a while, it's another to enable them into thinking they don't have to work or can depend on you for money.
I suppose many parents deal with this type of dilemma with their children, but in this case the person is older than me. I just don't want this to turn into bad blood. Sometimes when you start to treat people a certain way, they expect that treatment forever, then treat you like the bad guy when that treatment stops. Even if you never owed it to them in the first place.
I THINK YOU SHOULD GIVE MONEY FREELY TO YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS IF IT WILL BE PUT TO GOOD USE AND ALSO HELP THEM IN OTHER WAYS TO PREVENT THEM FROM WANTING MONEY FROM YOU AGAIN. SELFLESS LOVE JESUS SAID GIVE TO THOSE WHO ASK SO DO IT GOD WILL BLESS YOU AND YOU WILL BE DOJNG A GOOD THING. BUT YOU CAN HELP YOUR FAMILY IN OTHER WAYS.
