(July 28, 2020 at 9:05 pm)TaraJo Wrote:(July 28, 2020 at 8:48 pm)Jehanne Wrote: I really do not know how to read your post, but, I find it to be somewhat bigoted, something that would fall from the lips of Donald Trump. But, instead of right-wing, it comes across as the left-wing politically correct ideologs who think that to be transgender is to take hormones, and, ultimately, have surgery.
In short, there is nothing wrong with "male presenting transvwomen", which falls under the guise of "gender nonconforming", which is fully protected under the Law, at least where I live.
I mean, if people want to be trans in different ways, if they want to identify as demi-gender, space-kin or something like that, they can. It's no skin off my nose. But..... I don't want to feel like I'm losing my space, my community, my resources, as we're overwhelmed by people who, honestly, don't have very much in common with us.
I remember, when I first started transitioning, I went, nervously, to those myspace groups, asking how to start hormones, how to change my voice, where I can get a counselor, how to get my name changed. Everyone in the groups had their own experiences and spin and feelings on those topics. Now? Now it's getting increasingly difficult to find trans spaces that talk about those things. I've even seen some people that get offended if I dare talk about getting surgery or have facial hair removed (because those desires are based on a cissexist idea of what women should be). Wanting to pass used to be central to trans spaces, but now...... Now I feel like I'm being hated for attempting to pass.
So, y'know, be whatever outrageous identity you want, but don't take away the trans spaces that have always been extremely useful to trans people like me.
Please be careful with the ostensibly judgmental use of the adjective "outrageous"; some may accuse the kettle of calling the pot black.
Anyone and everyone who is supportive of your goals and wishes is a member of your community. And, in the process of realizing this truism, please do not judge those of us whose path of inner peace is on a different road than that which you have traveled.
