(September 22, 2020 at 8:05 am)Abaddon_ire Wrote:(September 21, 2020 at 7:49 pm)inferno_ink Wrote: I am pasting this excerpt from my intro as it is the reason I’ve come to this forum.
While I am fully accepting in my atheism, I married my wife as a Christian 13 years ago. She is devout but does not know about the change I’ve undergone. So now, my days are full of anxiety as I prepare to tell her. And oddly, while I am fully prepared to lose her, I am not ready to lose my daughters who are 6 and 4. I am currently seeking therapy as I know this is not going to be pretty as nearly my entire family are devout practicing Christians. Having been in therapy previously, I know that part of it is having a support system in place. Obviously I need other like minded individuals in my support system. I found this forum during a late night web binge on being an atheist for the first time.
As you can see, it’s the definition of being between a rock and a hard place. Thanks for hearing me out.
Been there, done that. Years ago.
Now I am single and have two rabid atheists to deal with.
You will NOT lose your daughters unless there is some other undisclosed reason besides atheism. Hell, now I can't get rid of mine. Pesky kids.
For a while, post separation/divorce, their mother was dragging them to Sunday mass every week. They finished that lark by bluntly refusing to go anymore. I was roaring with laughter when they told me that. I wish I had been there to see it.
Bottom line? I know it looks bleak at the outset. Looking back, though, it really isn't. I have a great life, great kids, and none of us have to put up with the hypocritical religious BS anymore. However, your exact circumstances may differ, so I can only offer my experience. It may not match yours.
There are some hilarious upsides by the way.
My eldest became an adult last month. Thus my legal and financial obligations came to an end. Surprisingly, this month I received a demand for 1500 bucks from the ex to be deposited into her account directly. With no uncertain glee I replied thusly...
"Ronan is now an adult with all that entails. If Ronan needs some financial assistance, then Ronan can ask me directly and I will deposit funds in HIS account, not YOURS. Because I know you will simply spend it on yourself given half a chance. So GFYS."
Thanks. I needed a chuckle. I hope my wife wouldn’t be that vindictive, I don’t see her being that way. And I realize that most of this doom and gloom could be stemming from my feeling guilty about hiding my beliefs for several years.
