RE: Grandfather in poor health
July 20, 2021 at 10:21 am
(This post was last modified: July 20, 2021 at 10:24 am by Brian37.)
(July 20, 2021 at 7:28 am)Tomatoshadow2 Wrote: Hi everyone,
Hope you are all doing good. My grandfather has been in poor health dealing with fluid on his lungs and it just gets worst. The doctor told him last week, that he is in the final stages of life. Everyone in my family right away you know, says start praying, that he can stay longer with us. For myself as many of you know, it just makes me angry, that all my family think their made up space character is going to do something for my grandpa. I just don't know really how to feel because I know death it's just a fact of life. My grandpa is 86, lived a good, but tough life. I know, it will be hard when he's gone.
He would always tell me you know 'god, helps with everything' I get mad at that,because you know he's not doing well, and if 'god' was so good, why isn't my grandpa healthy. You know, I've honestly wanted to call him and tell him that, though I haven't. I come here to tell you guys, only you know how it feels, when your the only atheist, in a room full of what seems like crazy people. I asked, my mom how he was doing, she said 'god is good, he is here another day' I know when all hope seems to be lost, people turn to faith, but for what, it seems just to make up a big lie to feel better.
I watched my late mother take her last breath in a nursing home. Of course I screamed when that happened. Several staff rushed me out and took me to a conference room to console me. "God" "God" "God"........ It was everything I could do not to scream at them, especially knowing many of them knew I was an atheist.
There is a double standard with theists. When we attend their funerals we are expected to keep our mouths shut during their mourning, and we do. But we cant express ourselves when it is us in time of crisis. After her body was taken to the funeral home, I came home and got online with other atheists and they completely understood and I was allowed to be myself.
Death is an unfortunate part of life. But yea, "God" is simply a comforting lie people convince themselves of. When the inevitable happens you can certainly come here and vent. It is always good to have others to lean on and talk to that understand you.
But as long as he is alive, just give him comfort without confrontation. I did the same with my mom. She was a lifetime Catholic. I never confronted her with religious debate when she was in decline.
