I guess my point is that, even as an atheist with no desire or expectation of an afterlife, I still have a personal myth about my purpose and how a finite life is enough. If others go a different route, I can't just "give them" my myth as a substitute (something built up over a lifetime), so there is no point in me trying to break down theirs in their elder years.
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Yeah I see your point, I like your view on it better, remember believers can do very bad things in the name of their 'myth' while we only live life. Well, I wouldn't say your breaking them down, especially if the older person is like my grandpa, where he thinks being an atheist, is just terrible haha.
Yes, I agree, that's how I find myself thinking lately, the question of why, you know, well just a fact of life.
Yes, I don't really feel any grief myself, just a fact, and all my family is like, it's just terrible, while my grandpa is suffering. My family is what it is, nothing changes that.
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Yeah I see your point, I like your view on it better, remember believers can do very bad things in the name of their 'myth' while we only live life. Well, I wouldn't say your breaking them down, especially if the older person is like my grandpa, where he thinks being an atheist, is just terrible haha.
(July 22, 2021 at 9:25 am)The Grand Nudger Wrote: @Tomatoshadow2
Well, we didn't have the good luck/misfortune of a period of illness or really even an expectation. He was young, it was sudden. We just hugged it out, mostly. I assume we'd all have pleaded and bargained with the cosmos in our own ways had we known.
Yes, I agree, that's how I find myself thinking lately, the question of why, you know, well just a fact of life.
(July 24, 2021 at 2:05 am)gd3001 Wrote: My own grandad died last year, and my other grandad died in 2017. He died a very painful death.
I am sorry you feel isolated from your family.....not for religous reasons, I was actually intensly religious at the time, but I did feel very isolated in 2017. I was only 11, and I felt very confused and overwhelmed by everyone. My whole family was very upset writing the eulogy etc, and there was a lot of stress. I felt like I didn't have enough grief compared to what they were feeling, and although they respected my beliefs, they didn't know the half of all the inner pain and confusion I was going thru in my soul. I was really repressing myself and my sexuality and I was also being exposed to a lot of terrible stuff online.
Now even though I still consider myself a Christian I think I am a Gnostic and I am honestly really sorry about your family. What you and are experincing I believe is worthwhile and it will get easier
Yes, I don't really feel any grief myself, just a fact, and all my family is like, it's just terrible, while my grandpa is suffering. My family is what it is, nothing changes that.
